The Used People

     Kind of a strange name for an Opinion Piece, but is is apt for this one. 

     I have ran into people who wish to see the best of humanity in everyone. But in most cases you will learn (Sometimes the hard way) that is just a fantasy. Most of your thoughts are just that, your thoughts, none of which is backed up by substance. Most of it is backed by lies and deception. None of it is back by the love of a person, just the thought of a fantasy of love given freely from that person. We have people in this world who just use others to get ahead and to keep themselves just above the waterline and not drown. But the people they run through are doing the same thing, they are the ones holding the other persons head above water. But what does this accomplish? Nothing. These people will use you for everything you have and your Heart will give it to them. These people will convince you they have a Heart and a Sole and really care for you but in essence they really do not. They just care for themselves. This is the true meaning of Narcissist. (Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one's own attributes. The term originated from Greek mythology, where the young Narcissus fell in love with his own image reflected in a pool of water. Narcissism is a concept in psychoanalytic theory, which was popularly introduced in Sigmund Freud's essay On Narcissism (1914). The American Psychiatric Association has listed the classification narcissistic personality disorder in its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) since 1968, drawing on the historical concept of megalomania.

Narcissism is also considered a social or cultural problem. It is a factor in trait theory used in various self-report inventories of personality such as the Millon Clinical Multiaxial Inventory. It is one of the three dark triadic personality traits (the others being psychopathy and Machiavellianism). Except in the sense of primary narcissism or healthy self-love, narcissism is usually considered a problem in a person's or group's relationships with self and others. Narcissism is not the same as egocentrism.)

       This long explanation is an accurate one. These types of people pray on the weak and usually win. Cult leaders use this trait to their advantage to gain followers and then rape them of their money their body and their spirit. Making the person feel empty and unwanted and unworthy. When all along they have done nothing wrong other than fall into a trap that many others have fallen into.

     One way to separate yourself from this is to pull your self away from the toxic people in your life and then work on your own self esteem. 9 out of 10 of individuals who fall for this type of behavior have nothing wrong with them physically, but for some reason, "back by scientific research" their brains are where the problem lies. These problems are usually started by someone grooming them at a young age with empty promises and loads of bullshit. 

     What you have to do is to take a long look at yourself and then ask your self some questions (Do I deserve any of this treatment that I have been given?) (Am I better than this?) (Why do I continue to give and never receive love, respect and adulation?)Look at yourself in the mirror and ask your self these questions and observe yourself answering these questions and you will then realize you are better than this and you deserve better than what you have gotten. Self worth is the key. Individual thinking is the answer.

One of my favorite sayings is one I wrote years ago:
Live Life Love Live, But Most of all Love Yourself and You Can Achieve Anything.