Descending into madness

      This Blog is a direct result of a true and on going situation with Kids involved. You know grandkids. I have never been one who likes confrontation when it comes to grandkids, but somehow others do not want to grow up and act their age. I know there are a lot of grandparents out there who are grappling with parties that thrive on misery and confrontation. In the long run the people that get hurt are the children, because of the bitterness or the downright hatefulness of the others  involved. Someone told me to kill them with kindness. But I can tell you there are some people that will never work with. I have researched this at great length and there is no real answer to how and fix this. Someone is going to suffer the inability to see the children. My first question is what are they afraid of? Second why play the victim in all situations regarding the children. Maybe it is a lack of self esteem that controls their brain function. 

     The fact that this takes place all over this country because of blended families is sad but the adults have to start to act like adults, because if you act like a victim then your children will do so as well. And their integration into society will be much more difficult. Most of them will never make it and will live at home until they are 30 plus. But then comes along the really genius parent that has all the answers to every question. yet no experience but pertains to have all of the knowledge to take on the world. And those are the ones who bug the shit out of me the most. For one simple reason, they will never listen to anything but themselves and OH except for that original person who keeps the confrontation  going in the first place. There is no substitute for life experience, no matter what they say. 

     Bottom line here is people need to act like adults the time for being a child when you are a parent or grandparent is over. The people that you are hurting are the children. One thing you will find out is that when children grow up and find out the truth they have a very unique way of making you pay for the time you took away from the interactions with other grandparents or parents because you were such a good lair at the time. Kids have an uncanny ability to figure this out. 

     There is nothing more beautiful than to see the wonderment in a childs eyes, but there is nothing more disturbing to see fear in a child eyes due to vicious lies being told to them. How sad have we become to allow ourselves to get to this point. So to all the parents and grandparents out there all I can say is  keep your chin up and fight your way through it because the kids are worth it.